Top 30 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

I can remember vividly playing house as a little girl and dreaming of having my own husband and kids. It is amazing how children watch adult scenes of life and act them out as if it were their own. The all-American dream, for many, is to have a spouse, two kids (at least one boy and one girl), a dog or cat, a house, two cars, and a dream job. The comfortable life of a soccer mom is what we all want most times. Companionship and intimacy are also natural needs for human beings. This dream can definitely come true, but does anyone picture the problems that come along with it when you do not know your mate.

As dating goes along, we can think that we have found our match made in heaven. We take the famous diamond ring because you know diamonds are a girl’s best friend (laugh). Then things quickly go astray after we say I do. There is nothing worse than paying tons of money for a wedding and then two years later, you are paying more money for a divorce. The relationship that was once your dream can turn into your worst nightmare. No one wants to take this journey in life.

I have the perfect solution to keep you out of the mess that this terrible storm can cause when it travels down your pathway. You do not have to ever wake up and look in the mirror saying, “what have I done?” Asking questions beforehand is one of the most important parts of getting to know a person. I dated my husband for five years before we got married and I can honestly say that I still did not know every nook and cranny about him before we walked down the aisle. But you better believe that I tried (laugh).

My close friends and family often call me Oprah. They say I ask so many questions. Oftentimes I must correct them because if you do not know, it is just that simple. You do not know. I am an inquisitive person, but I have learned my boundaries. Over the years I have learned to let God guide my thoughts and words. As I tell my children, always think before you speak.

Communication is a key part of any relationship, but especially a courtship or marriage. If your significant other does not want to hear what you have to say, then they do not want to hear you at all. Listening is a courtesy that should be afforded to any person because after you listen, then you have your own chance to follow up with a response.

I have accumulated a list of 30 questions that I believe are important before you decide to marry the person of your dreams. Remember, take the responses to these questions seriously. You always want to know can the person that you choose care for you, but most importantly can they take care of you. Those are two different things. Love is a large part of any relationship, but it cannot always carry you through the rough times. So, ask these questions and listen for genuine answers. It will save you so much heartache in the end. I will create a printable freebie for you to take with you for the future.

30 Necessary Questions before We Get Married

1. How old are you?

2. How many children do you have? Do you want to have kids after we are married?

3. How many women have you dated officially?

4. How many women have you slept with?

5. Were you protected every time you had sex (if he has no children)?

6. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease? Will you take a test before we get married?

7. Have you ever used drugs or gambled? If so, what type and what was the frequency?

8. Where do you imagine yourself in 5 years in your life and career?

9. How do you handle stress?

10. What do you like most about me and what do you like least about me?

11. Why do you love me and feel that I am the one?

12. Are you good at handling conflict? How are we when we have conflict with each other?

13. How do you feel about my interaction with your family?

14. How do you feel about my interaction with my family?

15. How do you feel about your interaction with my family?

16. How do you feel about your interaction with your family?

17. Do you expect me to change anything after we are married?

18. What are your thoughts on how we will handle our finances and bank accounts? Are we financially compatible? Are you comfortable with discussing your credit score?

19. Will you pay the bills, or will I?

20. Is it okay to have free time away from your spouse? How often will you need free time?

21. Do you cook and clean?

22. How will household chores be divided?

23. Are you attached to your job and what are your plans for movement?

24. Will you still be attending college in the future?

25. Where will we be located geographically now and in the future?

26. How do you feel about my close friends?

27. How do you feel about me having friends of the opposite sex?

28. What are your religious beliefs? Do you attend church? Are we compatible in this area?

29. What is your sexual expectation from me?

30. How important is the upkeep of your physical appearance?

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