How Do You Handle a Relationship When it Feels One-Sided?

I believe that we all have been in a relationship, at some point in time, where it feels like you are giving your all and the other person is barely maintaining their end of the bargain. It is a tough feeling when this happens because you want to call it quits, but the other half of your mind just will not let you. For all intentional purposes, I will just say that you keep the magic going in the relationship. You plan everything, you have the great ideas, and it seems that you take the lead. How did this happen? Some may even question where did you go wrong?

I will graciously admit that if this is your situation, at some point you allowed yourself to take over and at least, a small part of him is comfortable with that. If he were not comfortable with this, most men would speak and say, “Hey, can you let me lead this part of the relationship.” Men never want women to get confused or twisted about their masculinity and their ability to lead.

Sometimes, men and women, both get confused with their role in the relationship. Women are often looking for the man to lead everything, but a good relationship actually requires a great partnership. It also requires great communication meaning that, sometimes, your partner may need you to be the lead. However, this should not lead to a relationship that feels one-sided meaning one person is doing all the work all the time and the other is just taking up space to say the least. We all distinctly know the difference, even if we do not admit it.

The first way to handle it is to verbally communicate how you are feeling. Any partner that cares about his mate will quickly correct this behavior and make a change for the long haul. But be careful. Many times, this is temporary, and it eventually reverts to the way that it was previously. This could simply be a sign of someone’s true character and intensive relationship therapy may be needed to resolve or address those issues.

If you decide to go through therapy as a couple, you may need individual therapy for both people at some point. There is a flaw in him that allows you to carry all the weight, but there is an issue with you as well because you were willing to carry it for an extended amount of time. Now, this is only an issue if it becomes a problem for you. If you have no problem with the roles being the way that they are, then you have no reason to finish reading this blog post. But if this issue has worked your last nerve, you have told him, and he will not correct it, then you are in much need of the information in this article.

If he is not willing to go to therapy or make a change, then you have a much bigger problem than you thought. Either you are willing to continue living your life this way or you are not, and bigger decisions are necessary. I will always say that I am never going to be the person to tell you to leave or stay in a relationship unless physical abuse is involved. I will always say do not marry a person’s potential. Also, only you know when you have reached your breaking point and had enough.

Everyone’s definition of enough is different. My level of tolerance is going to be totally different than someone else. The Bible tells us to watch as well as pray, so keep your eyes and ears in tune with the situation at hand. Does he love you or is he using you for some purpose that serves him only? Pay close attention to how he treats you in all areas. Ask yourself if he is making any effort or contribution to this relationship at all? Is he just taking or is he giving as well?

There are so many things to consider, but the bottom line is, you know if a person makes you emotionally happy or not. You also know when you feel drained to the core. Consider every piece of information in this article. Make a chart and weigh the good versus the bad. After this, be comfortable in making a final decision. I cannot say that it will not hurt for a while if you do leave, but you will be better off in the long run. He will know that you meant what you said, and you are not willing to allow someone to walk all over you.