The Importance of Maintaining the Physical and Emotional Standard You Had Before You Met Your Mate

Relationships, especially marriage, can be so comfortable. Often, we lose sight of how we initially met our mate and wrapped them up in our spectacular web of love (laugh). On a serious note, we become complacent and forget the looks, the fashion, the hairdos, and the dates that we used to find our way to each other. We forget about his favorite perfume that we used to entice him every single time until he was finally reeled in. Ladies let’s get back to the days of romance because it is necessary.

This is how you keep the fire burning in your relationship. I will be the first person to admit that keeping up with your body, your hair, and other looks is a task at times. Between work, kids, homework, extracurricular activities, outside family issues, and friends, your needs may get put on the back burner. But you better find the wood and logs to get the flames from that old fire burning before someone else does. I am being so forward and honest, but we cannot forget how we developed the love that even allows us to create the kids and other distractions that are in our relationship.

Listen to me! Your coach is telling you to get your head back in the game. Going out for dinner and dancing is always nice. But this can always be done at home as well, especially if you have infants or small children and no babysitter. It is important, even daily, to get your children on a regular schedule with an early bedtime so the adults can have some time for themselves. This keeps your children grounded for rest and emotional consistency, but it also leaves time for the parents to unwind at the end of the night.

You can find time to pamper yourself and prep for your weekend date by polishing your toes, doing your hair, or even digging in the closet for that outfit and the heels that you want to wear. If you do decide to stay at home, do not wear jeans and a t-shirt. Dress up so he can see the person that he may need to become reacquainted with. Do not let COVID-19 stand in the way of your romance. If necessary, you may need to find time to make appointments at the hair and nail salon to get you in the mood.

You deserve to treat yourself so that you feel more vibrant and youthful. Sometimes, we all need time away from home. This will allow you to leave and clear your mind of the daily routine. It is important to maintain that same energy and physical look that we had originally, so your mate does not feel that you pulled a bait and switch (laugh). I am sure that is not the case because all our personalities and looks will evolve to a certain extent. However, we should not change so much that we become a person that our mate no longer recognizes.

Slipping into a less than appealing routine everyday can easily happen. Putting your hair into that same tired ponytail with no makeup or lip-gloss can become an unwanted habit. The t-shirt and jeans can be replaced with a nice pair of pants and blouse once or twice a week. It will do wonders for your self-esteem and keep your mate interested. Encourage him to do the same if he starts to slip into this pattern. It goes both ways.

If you begin to feel like you are drifting away at any time, look in the mirror and be honest about what you see. If you are physically and emotionally fading again, give yourself that pick me up that you know you need. There are so many videos on YouTube that can keep you on track with personal hygiene hacks which help to avoid paying someone else for the upkeep. If necessary, though, please leave it to the professionals. Keep your head up sister and do not let the daily monotony influence your shine. You have got this!

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