Are You a Woman Who Has Trouble with Submission?

Women were made to be a helper to their male counterpart. Men were made to submit to God, and women were made to submit to their husbands. Many times, we try to give the word submission an ugly connotation because women of today have sometimes determined that they no longer want to be held accountable to anyone. But wait my sisters! Submission is a two-way street. Submitting to your husband does not mean that he can take advantage of you and mistreat you during any given situation.

Submission is something that comes into play with the husband’s role in a relationship just as much as the wife. Men, often, misunderstand the directive of the word submit. Men are biblically instructed, in Ephesians 5:25, to love their wives the way that Christ loved the church. If we think long and hard about this, men should be willing to lay down their lives as a method of protection in marriage. That sounds extreme but could possibly be necessary. This means watch these traits, ladies, before you choose a mate to marry. They are required to take care of us and love us unconditionally and, as women, we should do the same. It should be reciprocated and felt on both ends.

I will reiterate this again as I did in my blog post last week. I am speaking in a situation of marriage. A woman is NOT required to submit to a mate that she is not married to. However, if you are dating to marry, you will often come awfully close. I still stress the fact that girlfriends should not play the role of a wife. Please do not misunderstand me. Do not withhold good treatment from a man like you are trying to hold out until he gives you a ring. You will completely drive him in the opposite direction if you try to pressure him to do something that he is not equipped or ready for.

Also, he does not need a verbal brow beating just because you are ready to get married and he is not. Men do not like to be strong armed into doing things and women do not either. Let your relationship run its course naturally. Just as there are steps in the process of courtship, there are steps to submission as well. Submission is gentle and can be seen in ways that you would never believe. If you have the right mate, it will be easy and never forced. You will fit together like a hand in a glove.

As women, we often want to be independent and not held accountable for our actions. This is the exact opposite of submission. The husband is seen as the head of the household but what does that mean? It means different things for different people. No two households will always look alike. It is up to that couple to determine how their marriage will look. There is no cookie cutter blueprint in this situation. There are some things that I, personally, may not do that other wives will. Just because it does not work for my household does not mean that it will not work for yours.

The best thing that I can tell you about submission is to always let a man be just that, a man. If you love him the way that he needs to be, he will not stray. In saying this again, know who you are marrying and their tendencies. Do not sugar coat and ignore their behavior just because they fit another description on your list. You do not want to marry someone for their potential. Marry them for who they are today.

I personally do not want a puppet for a mate. I want a strong, hardworking man of God to stand next to everyday. I want him to make his own decisions and I will always make mine. Our roles of submission mean that we will always be considerate of each other while making our individual choices. Submission is not cutthroat, conniving, and hurtful. I love my husband enough to consider him in every decision that I make. This includes finances, household decisions, makeup, perfume, clothes, shoes, vacations, and so much more.

I would never want to feel like my husband disregarded me in anything that he decided to do. Submission to each other means that I am obligated to treat him the same way that I want to be treated and care for him like no other woman ever will. I mean this in a physical and emotional way. Contrary to popular belief, submission is not hard if you have chosen the right person to submit to. An inner struggle with this area usually means there is an issue with your emotions. Check your heart because it truly may be a heart issue within yourself. Everyone deserves to be loved with all the unconditional love, compassion, and submission that is required for any given relationship. Dig deep, sugar, and search your love story to make sure that you are giving it your all.