Are You in Tune with Your Femininity?

I am really interested in corresponding with my followers and having a healthy online discussion regarding what characteristics are displayed in the femininity of a woman. I will say this up front. Please do not be offended because everyone’s opinion will be different, but I believe that in some ways we have walked away from God’s original intent for women. The question always arises regarding whether women today should be dependent or independent? Should women be needy or needed?

The current version of femininity that we display is so distant from where God meant for us to be. I find it strange because what we have become and what we look up to, as women, is far from the original blueprint. Before you go all the way in ladies (laugh), I am going to start this conversation with some definitions of femininity. This may appear to be the same or this may differ from the concept that we have formed in our mind based on the way that we were raised, society’s input, and possibly what you have formed based on your own interpretations through your personal walk in life.

Merriam Webster’s Dictionary (merriamwebster.com) defines feminine as female sense. The second definition goes on to say: characteristic of or appropriate or unique to women. The third definition states: of, relating to, or constituting the gender that ordinarily includes most words or grammatical forms referring to females. In general, I would say that this summary represents the essence of being a woman.

How does a woman discover her feminine essence? The Holy Bible states, in Titus 2:3-5, older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. I believe this is true for me. Everything that I learned, growing up, was taught to me by my mother or my sisters and I have tried to pass this information down to my daughters by adding my own twist.

There were other women in my life as well like my grandmother, aunts, cousins, and friends who contributed to the woman that I am today. We are a village responsible for passing positive tidbits to each other. In many ways we have turned our role as women into a competition with men. This is not why we were created. We were created to be helpers to men in a supportive capacity. I believe that means that we may need to lead in some cases, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that we can take over the male role which essentially would almost eliminate them altogether.

Single women should be concentrating on creating a foundation for themselves. Pamper yourself in the process and when your mate finds you, your full feminine polish and hard work will shine through. The Proverbs 31 woman in The Bible was a hard-working woman and she still took care of home. That reminds me so much of my grandmother who went to bed early and rose before daylight. Proverbs 31:11-18 says:

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. 14 She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. 15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. 16 She considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. 17 She dresses herself[e] with strength and makes her arms strong. 18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable. Her lamp does not go out at night.

Most men are looking for a counterpart, not a dependent. Even if women stay at home, that work is equivalent to what her husband does daily. Women wear many hats during the course of a day.

There are so many moving parts to femininity. Women are called to be mothers, sisters, wives, homemakers, strategists, problem solvers, miracle workers, beauties, modest, well spoken, motivators, and finishers. While we take care of everyone else, we must also stop and smell the flowers for ourselves. Doing all of this, while we look well put together, requires assistance in many cases. Just know that it is possible, and you don’t have to break the bank while doing it.

There are many influencers that are now giving advice on femininity. I recently began listening to April Mason and she is fabulous! She is a Dating and Femininity Educator and I located her on her Facebook page. She gives so many fabulous tips on taking care of yourself, what to look for in men, and passing information along to the next generation. Our young women need to be educated properly. It still takes a village to raise our youth.

Things can still be obtained, even if you are not good at doing it yourself. If you need fashion advise, I will refer you to Stacey J. Knack who can also be located on Facebook. She is a personal stylist, and she specializes in dressing people based on their personal wants and needs. I have added both links in this story. You can reach each person mentioned by clicking on their name which will take you to their business page. I believe their feminine IQ is on point.

Our femininity is endless because we learn something new and interesting that strengthens our character each day. My desire for women is for them to learn as much as possible, take it all in, and spread the word to someone in need of the information. Your femininity speaks volumes and tells the world who you are before you even open your mouth. What you wear, the way you speak, your hairstyle, the way you smell, and the way you walk tells a story by itself. This lets every person, that you encounter, know if you are full of self-confidence or if you need help in a particular area. Comment and let us know if you are in tune with your femininity. I can’t wait to see your input on the questions.